Why Parents Fight About Who Fed the Baby Last

The Hidden Cost of Memory Failure (and How to Stop It)

If you’ve had this argument, you’re not alone:

• “You fed them.”

• “No, I didn’t.”

• “Yes you did.”

• “No, that was yesterday.”

This fight is not about feeding.
It’s about memory under sleep deprivation.

TL;DR

• Sleep deprivation destroys reliable memory

• Two parents can sincerely remember the same night differently

• This creates:

  • Arguments

  • Distrust

  • Micromanagement

• A shared log stops this instantly

Why This Becomes a Relationship Problem

Without a shared memory layer:

• Each parent operates from partial truth

• Handoffs degrade

• Resentment compounds invisibly

It’s not a values issue.
It’s a systems issue.

Where Rivva Directly Changes Outcomes

Rivva gives both parents:

• One shared source of truth

• No hierarchy of “who remembers better”

• No guessing during night shifts

This is one of the strongest long-term retention and referral drivers for the app — because it doesn’t just help the baby, it protects the relationship.

Final Reassurance

Most parent fights aren’t about love, effort, or values.
They’re about logistics under biological exhaustion.

Fix the memory layer.
The relationship tension drops with it.